This is a throw away account, in case I end up working with someone that reads this post.

I’ve been lurking on this community with my main account for a few months now. I have ideas on what I’d like to self-host but between my ADHD, perfectionism, and anxiety, I’m frozen.

I need help selecting and implementing an initial set up. I’m not an IT professional but I’m a reasonably advanced user, so I’m confident I can do the setup work and ongoing management myself. I just need someone to:

1. Discuss the big picture of what’s involved in self-hosting and help fill in gaps in my understanding;
2. Help me decide on the best initial setup for my needs and skill level;
3. Hold my hand during the setup phase and make sure I’m not doing anything stupid;
4. Ideally be available long term for the occassional question.

I’m willing to pay a fair hourly rate for this assistance. If someone in this community is interested, please dm me. You might want to use a throw away for that too, assuming this work can’t be done anonymously.

Alternatively, any suggestions for good websites to find a consultant, and what skills I should be looking for, would also be greatly appreciated.

Thank you for reading. Wishing you all the best for 2026.

Edit: I appreciate all the offers for free help on this forum.

I perhaps didn’t explain well enough that what I really need is a knowledgeable coach, who can get me moving and provide guidance. I bought the Official Pi-hole Raspberry Pi 4 Kit a few months ago and it’s still sitting on my desk gathering dust. Embarrassing but true.